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Now is the time to begin creating exactly what you want in 2012! What I want for you is for 2012 to be your best year yet.  Watch our short video to find out how.

TLC Coaches challenge:

1. Block a chunk of time for you over the holidays to begin designing your ideal 2012.

2. Email us at celebrate2011@teresia.com for your complimentary worksheet.

3. Read the article below to learn more about the power of setting value based goals.

4. Check out our New Approach to Goal Setting ebook now at special holiday pricing of only $19.99 (Reg. $29.97)

Wishing you and your loved ones a happy and safe holiday season!

With gratitude,

Set Valued Based Goals!

I want to share with you a topic that I am very passionate about – setting goals based on your true values.  Every January, I share this message with the communities I am associated with, if you have heard it from me before stay with me – it’s worth reading again

When I first became a coach 17 years ago, I was all about goal setting. I would say to my clients “Goal setting is the key to creating what you want in your life; you must be clear of your goals and write them down”. Through my personal journey of consciously creating a life I love and supporting thousands of individuals to do the same, I have discovered that yes, goal setting is important BUT fruitless unless those goals are set on a foundation of your true values.

To live a life you love and achieve what your heart desires, you must first be clear on your values. Let me explain what I mean by that:

Values are the things you do that you find very attractive, an emotional state that you feel is very important.  When engaged in these activities you feel most like yourself:  in touch with whom you are, glowing, and life is effortless. Values are the essence of who you are.

While we like these things, most of us lead lives which do not grant us the chance to just do these things. Most people set goals based on ‘have to’, ‘should’ and ‘need’ and are generally too busy with ‘responsibilities’ or ‘incompletions’ to pursue the life they truly desire.

Your values are the intangible aspects of your life that make you feel in alignment, complete, on track, and functioning at a high level. Examples include adventure, fun, service, creativity, connection, and hundreds more. A life that aligns with one’s core values will feel satisfying, even in difficult times.

When we live a life aligned with our values there are many gifts to be experienced:

• Our cup is full and we have so much more to give others.
• We live our life from a place of “attraction” vs. force. We begin to attract like minded individuals and opportunities in our life.
• We do not spend as much time on making decisions – when you are clear of your values it is easy to decide the next best step.
• We create results in our life with less effort.
• We live from a place of joy and gratitude.
• When challenges come our way – we can still be happy. (Have you ever met someone who just got fired from their job, going through a divorce, or experiencing a health challenge and they still exude joy. Now that is living a successful life.)

When we consciously design our life aligned with our values, life gets immeasurably richer – and easier.

OK, have I enrolled you in living a life aligned with your true values? So how do we do that? First you have to get clear on what your values are. Gaining clarity of your values and designing your life around them is a process.

It does not happen over night. I first heard about the concept of values in 1995 when I had my first stint with the Anthony Robbins group and even though I was eager to live life at this new level of passion of fulfillment, it took me many years before I achieved it. When we commit to living a life aligned with our values, really commit, there is a journey of self transformation that happens.

Here is what happens (if you like it or not

• You begin on a path of self exploration and self discovery.
• you must first get your personal needs met (needs in this context is simply put, the things you require on a regular basis in order to do your best work and feel good about yourself.)
• You must be open to healing any unhealed emotional wounds.
• You must become comfortable with the concept of “selfishness before success”.

Begin this journey now – give yourself and those around you the gift of a more joyful and satisfying life.

TLC Coaches challenge:

As you go through the next month, think about how you would complete this sentence:

“If I had plenty of free time and all the money I could ever want, then I would be free to (action) and that would let me experience more (value).”

Continue to practice this exercise over and over to help you identify the aspects of your life that you value most. Keep track of your answers… they’re the roadmap to your life!

For a self coaching guide on setting values based goals check out our ebook on A New Approach to Goal Setting at a discounted rate until the end of January. This is a self-coaching e-book that helps you identify what’s most important to you, and teaches you how to design your life according to your values. It just might be the fastest, easiest way to boost your life to a whole new level, and it will certainly give you a fresh new perspective on your New Year’s Resolutions!

Does perfectionism get in your way of productivity?

Check out my article that I wrote this past week for the Coaches Corner column for the Vancouver Province newspaper. I welcome your comments about times when you have experienced the same issue and how you dealt with it.”

Q: I just secured a new contract with a company I have been working on for years. I am very excited about the opportunity but I feel a huge degree of pressure to do a good job and I cannot get myself started on the project. If I do not get into action soon, I will loose the contract. Help!

A: It sounds like you may be suffering from a common case of perfectionism. Perfectionism is often mistakenly seen in our society as desirable or even necessary for success. However, recent studies have shown that perfectionistic attitudes actually interfere with success. Being a perfectionist is one of the biggest causes of procrastination. It may be time to look at your situation honestly and notice what your patterns are. To get yourself into action first realize perfection is an illusion that is unattainable. The next step is to challenge the self-defeating thoughts and behaviours that fuel perfectionism. Some of the following strategies may help:

• Take baby steps. Set a realistic reachable goal, as you reach a goal, set your next goal one level beyond your present level of accomplishment.
• Experiment with your standards for success. Choose any activity and instead of aiming for 100 percent, try for 90 percent, 80 percent, or even 60 percent success. This will help you to realize that success can still be experienced when you are not perfect.
• Use feelings of anxiety and depression as opportunities to ask yourself, “Have I set up impossible expectations for myself in this situation?”
• Confront the fears that may be behind your perfectionism by asking yourself, “What am I afraid of? What is the worst thing that could happen?”
• Avoid all-or-none thinking in relation to your goals. Decide which tasks you want to give high priority to and on the less important tasks, choose to put forth less effort.
• Look at your belief around failing. Recognize that many positive things can only be learned by making mistakes.

And remember at this point you don’t have to get it right; you just have to get going!

If procrastination is getting in your way be sure to join us for special call this month. See details below.

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