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Now is the time to begin creating exactly what you want in 2012! What I want for you is for 2012 to be your best year yet.  Watch our short video to find out how.

TLC Coaches challenge:

1. Block a chunk of time for you over the holidays to begin designing your ideal 2012.

2. Email us at celebrate2011@teresia.com for your complimentary worksheet.

3. Read the article below to learn more about the power of setting value based goals.

4. Check out our New Approach to Goal Setting ebook now at special holiday pricing of only $19.99 (Reg. $29.97)

Wishing you and your loved ones a happy and safe holiday season!

With gratitude,

Set Valued Based Goals!

I want to share with you a topic that I am very passionate about – setting goals based on your true values.  Every January, I share this message with the communities I am associated with, if you have heard it from me before stay with me – it’s worth reading again

When I first became a coach 17 years ago, I was all about goal setting. I would say to my clients “Goal setting is the key to creating what you want in your life; you must be clear of your goals and write them down”. Through my personal journey of consciously creating a life I love and supporting thousands of individuals to do the same, I have discovered that yes, goal setting is important BUT fruitless unless those goals are set on a foundation of your true values.

To live a life you love and achieve what your heart desires, you must first be clear on your values. Let me explain what I mean by that:

Values are the things you do that you find very attractive, an emotional state that you feel is very important.  When engaged in these activities you feel most like yourself:  in touch with whom you are, glowing, and life is effortless. Values are the essence of who you are.

While we like these things, most of us lead lives which do not grant us the chance to just do these things. Most people set goals based on ‘have to’, ‘should’ and ‘need’ and are generally too busy with ‘responsibilities’ or ‘incompletions’ to pursue the life they truly desire.

Your values are the intangible aspects of your life that make you feel in alignment, complete, on track, and functioning at a high level. Examples include adventure, fun, service, creativity, connection, and hundreds more. A life that aligns with one’s core values will feel satisfying, even in difficult times.

When we live a life aligned with our values there are many gifts to be experienced:

• Our cup is full and we have so much more to give others.
• We live our life from a place of “attraction” vs. force. We begin to attract like minded individuals and opportunities in our life.
• We do not spend as much time on making decisions – when you are clear of your values it is easy to decide the next best step.
• We create results in our life with less effort.
• We live from a place of joy and gratitude.
• When challenges come our way – we can still be happy. (Have you ever met someone who just got fired from their job, going through a divorce, or experiencing a health challenge and they still exude joy. Now that is living a successful life.)

When we consciously design our life aligned with our values, life gets immeasurably richer – and easier.

OK, have I enrolled you in living a life aligned with your true values? So how do we do that? First you have to get clear on what your values are. Gaining clarity of your values and designing your life around them is a process.

It does not happen over night. I first heard about the concept of values in 1995 when I had my first stint with the Anthony Robbins group and even though I was eager to live life at this new level of passion of fulfillment, it took me many years before I achieved it. When we commit to living a life aligned with our values, really commit, there is a journey of self transformation that happens.

Here is what happens (if you like it or not

• You begin on a path of self exploration and self discovery.
• you must first get your personal needs met (needs in this context is simply put, the things you require on a regular basis in order to do your best work and feel good about yourself.)
• You must be open to healing any unhealed emotional wounds.
• You must become comfortable with the concept of “selfishness before success”.

Begin this journey now – give yourself and those around you the gift of a more joyful and satisfying life.

TLC Coaches challenge:

As you go through the next month, think about how you would complete this sentence:

“If I had plenty of free time and all the money I could ever want, then I would be free to (action) and that would let me experience more (value).”

Continue to practice this exercise over and over to help you identify the aspects of your life that you value most. Keep track of your answers… they’re the roadmap to your life!

For a self coaching guide on setting values based goals check out our ebook on A New Approach to Goal Setting at a discounted rate until the end of January. This is a self-coaching e-book that helps you identify what’s most important to you, and teaches you how to design your life according to your values. It just might be the fastest, easiest way to boost your life to a whole new level, and it will certainly give you a fresh new perspective on your New Year’s Resolutions!

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There is a saying that people won’t make a change in their life unless they feel enough pain to make the change. Consider that someone may live an unhealthy life and then are told they have a life threatening illness- typically at that point they decide to make big changes.

Or consider someone who has been in an unhappy relationship for years and finally they realize that they are ’settling’ and they make a decision to transform or leave the relationship.

There is a turning point in everyone’s life and business or a fork in the road that we all encounter. One of the major signs that you are ready for a business breakthrough is that you are no longer willing to settle!

You will not settle for:

• Making less money than you know you are able to create
• Struggling to keep up with work without support
• Doing it all alone and feeling stressed or frustrated
• Trying to figure things out without an overall plan or strategy
• Feeling stuck or in a rut with the success you have created

If any of these ‘no settle’ items resonate with you then congratulations you have the first symptom of being ready for a major business breakthrough!

The good news here is that when you recognize that you are no longer willing to tolerate or settle you are now ready to do something in a new or different way in order to create a new and different result.

So if you know what you will not settle for the fun part is to decide what you want to create. Usually what you want to create is the opposite to what you will no longer tolerate. 

It might look like this:

• Rather than settle for less money you wish to create abundance with ease
• Rather than struggling to keep up with your work you attract the right support
• Rather than doing it all alone you envision yourself supported and joyful
• Rather than trying to figure things out on your own you have a strategy team
• Rather than feeling stuck you feel energetic and re-energized about the future
• Deciding not to settle or tolerate takes courage BUT it is a key step in living your best life.

TLC coaches challenge:

List 5 things you are tolerating in your business. It may include not having the proper equipment or technology, a messy desk, struggling with your marketing activities etc.
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List 5 things you are tolerating in your relationships. It may include lack of communication, not enough support, poor follow up, not working with your ideal clients, late payments etc
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List 5 things you are tolerating about yourself. It may include procrastination, sleeping in, not setting boundaries, not committing to an exercise program etc.
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By simply making this list you will notice your tolerations will begin to disappear. By acting on your list and deciding to be ‘toleration free’, your life and busienss will transform.

Fasten your seatbelt and get ready for a business breakthrough! 

P.S Check out our Triple M Mastermind Ebook: 6 Signs That You Are Ready for a Major Business Breakthrough and 6 Steps to Cut Through the BS!

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I don’t know about you but I’m already thinking about of what I want to create in 2011. I catch myself thinking ’what do I need to do to prepare and put in place so I can experience all that my heart desires in 2011?’  Here at TLC, we are ramping up for an abundant year! How about you?

Were you part of our call On October 21st on “Cutting Through the BS and Getting to the Abundant YES”?

We talked about:

1. Noticing your thoughts and beliefs around ‘receiving’- practice getting better at receiving – surprisingly for most of us it is not the easiest thing to do!
2. Cutting through your own BS – you must do the work and be held accountable to the roadblocks you put in your own way.
3. Take action – you have to plan and take action towards what you want and you can’t do it alone.   

If you missed the call you can listen to the recording at www.triplemmastermind.com (scroll half way down the right hand column)

Want to be part of something bigger then yourself in 2011? The Triple “M” Mastermind – Mind, Money and a Life of Meaning is a program that is designed for high performing women who are looking to achieve more with less effort, leverage their time, opportunities, resources, and be part of an environment of like minded women who are committed to living their best life. For more information on The Triple “M” Mastermind Program send us an email at mastermind@teresia.com and put in the subject box “I am interested” 

If you would like to learn how to create your own Mastermind Team, check out our ebook on the Magic of the Mastermind. Please click here. 

Coaching you to achieve your definition of “having it all”,

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Does perfectionism get in your way of productivity?

Check out my article that I wrote this past week for the Coaches Corner column for the Vancouver Province newspaper. I welcome your comments about times when you have experienced the same issue and how you dealt with it.”

Q: I just secured a new contract with a company I have been working on for years. I am very excited about the opportunity but I feel a huge degree of pressure to do a good job and I cannot get myself started on the project. If I do not get into action soon, I will loose the contract. Help!

A: It sounds like you may be suffering from a common case of perfectionism. Perfectionism is often mistakenly seen in our society as desirable or even necessary for success. However, recent studies have shown that perfectionistic attitudes actually interfere with success. Being a perfectionist is one of the biggest causes of procrastination. It may be time to look at your situation honestly and notice what your patterns are. To get yourself into action first realize perfection is an illusion that is unattainable. The next step is to challenge the self-defeating thoughts and behaviours that fuel perfectionism. Some of the following strategies may help:

• Take baby steps. Set a realistic reachable goal, as you reach a goal, set your next goal one level beyond your present level of accomplishment.
• Experiment with your standards for success. Choose any activity and instead of aiming for 100 percent, try for 90 percent, 80 percent, or even 60 percent success. This will help you to realize that success can still be experienced when you are not perfect.
• Use feelings of anxiety and depression as opportunities to ask yourself, “Have I set up impossible expectations for myself in this situation?”
• Confront the fears that may be behind your perfectionism by asking yourself, “What am I afraid of? What is the worst thing that could happen?”
• Avoid all-or-none thinking in relation to your goals. Decide which tasks you want to give high priority to and on the less important tasks, choose to put forth less effort.
• Look at your belief around failing. Recognize that many positive things can only be learned by making mistakes.

And remember at this point you don’t have to get it right; you just have to get going!

If procrastination is getting in your way be sure to join us for special call this month. See details below.

Special Bonus Call – October 21st
Are you ready to go for what you
REALLY want?

I invite you to join my team coach partner Cheryl Cran and I
on October 21st at 2:00pm (pacific) for a powerful dialogue on
“Cutting through the BS and Getting to the Abundant YES!“

Register now to get your spot on the breakthrough call!

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