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It has been a full day of masterminding, interaction and meaningful conversation.  My experience at this mastermind is a little different as it is noticeable my energy level is not the same as it has been at previous retreats.  I have been known for being the catalyst for outrageous, fun activities ( ex. impromptu enrolment of everyone running in the ocean at midnight, and……. hmmm what happens at the mastermind stays at the mastermind,well most of it ).  I have to keep reminding myself I am almost 8 months pregnant and I do need to pace myself.  My enthusiasm is sometimes bigger then my energy level!

 Three of us did our hot seat today.  For two of us a big part of our conversations evolved around the concept of making decisions and choices based on our true values.  It is very inspiring to be part of a group that each individual is very conscious of living their best life (which we feel a big part of that is making decisions and choices based on your values) and supporting each other in not settling for anything less.

I am a huge advocate for living valued based life,  a few years ago I wrote a  self coaching ebook called A New Approach to Goal Setting. Check it out by visiting  http://teresia.com/products/goal.html

I never had health and fitness as a value (even though my actions showed that it has always been important) but after my hotseat I have decided to officially claim it as my highest value at this time in my life.  Being a “mature” mom and wanting to experience much in my life – it is clear without energy,  and great  health, that will not be possible.

A mastermind buddy said “If I don’t put my health first everything else falls apart”.  Being in my early 40’s and becoming a new mom – this statement really resonated with me.

Before I left for my mastermind retreat I had a very inspiring coaching session with a client, his homework was to go through my New Approach to Goal Setting ebook.

We have been working together for over 7 years and our focus has been on leveraging his business and creating his ideal lifestyle.  It was great to discover that he is fully living his values and continues to move towards the ultimate vision of his life.  He also shared that health and fitness is at the top of his values list.  It began the process of my thinking Perhaps for all of us health and fitness needs to be our number one value.  If you are a high functionally individual and committed to living a full life – reality is we need our health to be in peak performance.

At this mastermind retreat I am claiming this is my number one priority – even writing this statement, it feels a little selfish.  What about being a mother, a wife – shouldn’t those roles be first? I am reminded of the anolgy of the safety procedure when flying, we are instructed to put the oxygen mask on first before we help our loved ones.  I see making my health a priority as my oxygen mask.   

My first step in reinventing as a mompreneur is to give myself permission to make working out and healthy eating the number one priority in my life.  I have journaled on what the specific actions steps are and one of the first things I will do is block these commitments into my calendar.  

 My other top values include:

• connection
• sharing
• growth
• fun
• inspiration
• making a difference

Ahh… it is getting late, I need my “baby sleep”.  I will continue to share the other insights of my reinvention and the “ah-ha’s” from the other hotseats tomorrow. 

Time flies when you are reinventing your life!

Nightie night!

Your coach in helping you live your definition of having it all!

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I was up at 5:00 a.m this morning, perhaps excited to go to my retreat or the growing baby bump is making it harder to sleep in. I drove to Kevin’s place, (fellow mastermind member) and before we left for our drive to La Connor together, we watched a taping of the Dali Lama from this morning’s Today Show. What did the Dali Lama have to say? What stood out to me the most was “If there is disaster and you can do something about it there is no need to worry, if you can’t do something there is no need to worry”. Isn’t there a song called “Don’t worry be happy”? – hmm can it be that simple? 

Kevin shared “Worry is a prayer for what you don’t want” – I agree! My first affirmation of my retreat! 

Had a wonderful day with Kevin, we had lunch in La Connor and caught up. Kevin is one of the original members of our group, we have known each other for 10 years. It was fun to reflect on all that we are grateful for; being a coach, being part of this mastermind and how our relationship has evolved over the years.

We arrived at Tracey’s home (where we are having our retreat – a beautiful 5,000 square foot home overlooking the water!) around 4:00 p.m. It was great to see everyone again!

During dinner we shared ideas of what our intention is as a group for this weekend retreat.

Here are a couple of themes that evolved:

* A blast of clarity

* A clarity that will fundamentally impact how we live the rest of our lives

* Clarity of what is your “Hell Yes” – what is the stand you want to make for your life?

* What has to happen for you to have an “extraordinary conversation’?

As we were sharing, I was reminded of how much it means to me to be part of a conversation where there is a level of intimacy, trust, mutual appreciation and “aha” moments – that to me is an extraordinary conversation!  

Tomorrow is our first official day of masterminding:

We have 6 members at this time; we will each have a 2 hour “hotseat”.

“Hotseat”: One member shares what their outcome, goal, issue, challenge is and is coached and supported by the rest of us.  

¨”Collective intentions create an environment that allows the members to receive information and ideas beyond what they would normally discover on their own”

I look forward to a day of “extraordinary conversations”!!

Join me tomorrow as I share some key insights and strategies from each hotseat.

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One of the things that gives me most joy is mentoring other coaches, helping them manifest their dream of building a successful coaching business. It is my honour to give back to the profession in this way.

We just completed a Passion into Profit program and I have witnessed great success.

One of our mottos here at TLC is “ We match your commitment every step of the way”

Hear what Mark Marcynuk, one of our graduates, is saying by clicking here.

To find out more about Mark here is his contact information:

website www.dynamitecoaching.ca
email coachmark@shaw.ca
phone 780-469-4800 bus.
              780-504-4886 cell.

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All my adult life I have embraced personal growth and committed to living my best life.

“Nothing has any meaning except the meaning you give it”

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Every month I have the opportunity to address questions from entrepreneurs like yourself in the Vancouver Province.

Check out today’s Q & A.

I would love to hear your comments

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Did you know next week is the The 2010 International Coaching Week? Created in 1999, ICW exists to provide a time to educate the public about the value of working with a professional coach and an opportunity for coaches and their clients to acknowledge the results and progress made through coaching. Since the inception of coaching there was a time when the concept was hardly known to today where hiring an outside coach has become quite common. There has been tremendous progress in coaching in the two decades. Having been a coach for almost 15years I have seen a trend in what my clients need and benefit most from. I call it the “we” space.

All my professional life I have been intrigued by the Power of We. Being a solo entrepreneur I intuitively knew in order to create the experiences my heart desired and make the level of difference I was committed to making I could not do it alone. Since the inception of my business, I have started and been part of many groups, a few that have really have transformed my life are: The Author Circle, Cloudnine Mastermind; The Family of Women and my TLC team. Shared experiences touch us on the deepest levels. Having these experiences has been the catalyst for expanding my coaching practice from a 1-1 coaching model to incorporating environments of “we” space for my clients. One program that I most excited about is our www.Triplemmastermind.com program.

In support of International Coach Week my colleague and I, Cheryl Cran are offering a complimentary call on February 10th on the 3 Trends for Women in Business in 2010 and will be launching our Triple M Mastermind: Mind * Money * Life of Meaning on February 26th. Sign up for the free call can be found at http://www.Triplemmastermind.com . This unique program is specifically for women executives or women entrepreneurs as research has indicated women’s innate values are collaboration, connection and community. It is these values that women are looking for in their work and in their lives. There is a new way of gaining success where women can leverage their time, let go of the lone ranger mentality and get results with ease and effortlessness!

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With Valentine’s Day around the corner I like to look at February as Love Month!

Whether you are in an intimate relationship, or take the opportunity on Valentine’s Day to honour a special relationship in your life (your best friend, mom, dad, brother, sister or perhaps even the relationship with yourself) may the concept below support you in experience the connection we all deserve.

On some level we all crave intimacy; the need to love and be loved. Yet we have so much trouble experiencing it. The other day, I was at a friend’s place and we were working on a project together. Her husband came home and she said “hi hon” and we continued working. I half jokingly said “what if you got up and physically greeted him and showed him how happy you were he was home?”

She said “are you serious”? But then quickly said, “you know, I used to do that.” A few days later she called me and said “Teresia your comment the other day has been with me ever since and this is a habit I am going to reintegrate into my life.”

After twelve years of being in a committed long term relationship, I clearly see that it is the little things that really make a difference when it comes to the success and sustainability of a healthy, successful relationship. I am very grateful to be in a relationship where we have cultivated a rewarding, fulfilling level of what I call emotional intimacy. All of my life, on some level, emotional intimacy was always very important to me. I intently gather groups of women together and create environments where we share our most intimate desires, fears and vulnerabilities. I have confronted issues in my personal relationship until we reached our own personal breakthroughs where we could connect on a deeper level, something we were both yearning for.

If intimacy is something you crave and don’t have, what are some of the daily acts of kindness you can do to fill that void?

Here are some of the little things that have become a part of my daily experience.

• My partner is a night person and I am a morning person – so he is basically going to bed when I am getting up in the morning. Almost daily we ensure that we have a morning and night connection, he will tuck me in and I will wake him up with a cuddle.

• Every morning I make him a smoothie and hand deliver it to him (I plan my mornings around his morning schedule to ensure we have a chance to connect before he goes off to work. (Having my own business and working from home makes this easy to do.)

• Have you seen the heart Post-It notes? I love them! I make good use of them and leave him little notes all over the place.

• When he comes home from work, I make sure that I greet him at the door (I believe the first 3 minutes you see each other sets the tone for the rest of the day – so I am pretty conscious to make this a great first 3 minutes.)

• I usually shower before him and I will often draw a heart in the steam on the shower door saying “I love you”.

• He will call me often from work to say, “I am thinking about you.” I still get butterflies when I hear his voice.

Some of you may be rolling your eyes (like my friend initially did) and perhaps even be thinking well he/she should be doing this for me. I have taken on the mantra many years ago to get more of what you want – you first need to give it.

To have emotional intimacy be a part of our relationship, these small acts of love are worth far more then any level of inconvenience and the extra effort on the days that I am feeling hurt or upset by our conflicts or when I simple “don’t feel like it”. Relationships are not always easy but a good one takes consistent effort on keeping the relationship glued.

I think Mother Theresa said it all when she said “Love does not measure, it only gives”.

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