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As I reflect on all the hotseats I am inspired by the themes that have emerged.  Perhaps in the future I will write an article on these topics but for now I would like to give you the “Coles notes.”

1.  What is your Hell Yes? 

What is next for you?  What is your next growing edge?  Where do you need to go to truly live a life you love? What could you do that would add a whole new level of excitement and fullfilment to your life?  It can a big Hell Yes or a small Hell Yes – as long as it is a Hell Yes for you. What would your life be like if you always had a Hell Yes?  My next Hell Yes is to step into motherhood as graceful and positive and embrace living my personal priorities first and trust that my business will look after itself.

2.  Honouring Yourself.

Many of us find ourselves in relationships where we may be compromising our integrity, values or deepest needs. This happens for many different reasons; our need to avoid conflict,  low self esteem, lack of self value, unhealed wounds from out past.  To live a life where in each moment we are honouring ourselves is a tall order but one that serves not only ourselves but those we love.  

During this discussion here are a few key points that stood out for me.

• To honour yourself you need to decide to bring all of you to the relationship.  Your needs, fears, and requests
• Tell your truth, share your interpretations of the truth.  Share your truth in a loving, compassionate way.  The intention behind the truth is important
• Take care of yourself
• Taking on a healthy responsibility is one of the most important step you can take for your self esteem and your relationship.
• When we are not honouring ourselves we can find ourselves playing out one of these three roles  a)1. Victim ( poor me) b) Rescuer – poor you c) Persecutor (f__k  you)

It is a fine line not to fall into one of these three roles, when we do, it can be a trigger we are not honouring ourselves.  When this happens take a deep belly breath, access the inner courage to share your truth and remember we are not responsible for how the other person feels.

 When it comes to creating healthy supportive relationships consider these points: 

* If a relationship is a lot of work perhaps it is the wrong relationship

* If you are not having fun something is off

* “If someone is awake pursue them, if someone is semi awake and they are pursuing you let them, if someone is asleep leave them alone”

3.  Eliminating self sabotaging behaviours

As we supported each other in stepping up to our next Hell Yes it was interesting to identify the self sabotaging patterns that would appear.  From many years of coaching I have come to realize each time we stretch out of our comfort zone, and go for our dreams, there is an opportunity to peel another layer off our self sabotaging behaviours.  I have also come to realize that these behaviours may never go away, instead we become conscious of them, manage them more effectively, and hopefully each time they show up in our life, their influence is less.  I was inspired to be part of a group that is so aware of their limiting behaviours and open to the support to overcome them.  

 4. Centre of Authenticity  

As the weekend continued it became clear how each of us wanted to make a difference as a coach was linked to where we needed to go next in our life.  Ever hear the saying what you teach is what you most need to learn?  For example, at this time in my life I am getting clear of my definition of having it all and living it.  I want this for all working moms.   Therefore my tag line is coaching you to achieve your definition of having it all.

I will take these themes and integrate them into the next 6 mths of my life.  I know they will all be helpful in one way or another as I make my transition from entrepreneur to mompreneur.  The great thing is I know I am not alone on this journey – I have my mastermind team to check in with on our weekly phone calls!

Are you ready to join a mastermind or build your own?  I hope that my insights have helped you see what a mastermind can do for you and your business.  If you are ready to delve deeper into the possibility of a mastermind, my book “Magic of the Mastermind“ will help you on your way.

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